We had a pretty good weekend.. Yes I know it was Monday and Tuesday to the normal folk, but when Jeff is off its our weekend no matter what day of the week it is.. He had an early day on Sunday , he got home about 9. so it was like he was off three days..We got along fine until yesterday.. He was really moppy and whiney telling me that he was so in love with me and that he felt that I wasn't in love with him.. It was really strange to see him like this. Okay I'm fixing to tell yall too much info about my sex life so if yall don't want to read it stop now..
We had sex all three days and he only attempted to get me off once..And then last night he tried to get me to give him a blow job.. I didn't do it, so of course he went to bed mad..
I got to thinking about what he said about me not being in love with him and I think I am starting to pull away from him , because I'm starting to see him in a different light..He say's that I have changed and I tell him the same thing.. Yes I have changed and I think its because I am so sexually frustrated. Him not satisfying me has been going on for a couple of years now.. At first I would just tell him to stop trying cause I wasn't going to cum and I felt bad for taking so long.. So now I regret all those years ago that I told him not to try, but I also see that if he really wanted me to cum then he wouldn't have given up on me so fast.. Now when he makes me cum he acts like its a burden , because I have taken forever.. I tried to explain to him that if he would love on me , and give me a little for play instead of just jumping into it maybe I would get turned on.. I'm not turned on and him sighing while I'm trying to relax doesn't turn me on..
Maybe we need to see some one, because I really do love him and want my marriage to work, but I have tried telling him what he is doing isn't working for me.. Thats when he tells me I am doing the same that I have always done.. And no thats not true he used to make love to me and take his time now he just fucks me.. Seriously two minutes and he's done..
I'm sorry to blog about all this personal crap, but I am at a loss. and writing it down helps..I just want more out of our sex life and he doesn't.. He told me so not by words but by his actions. I have talked to him about trying to do other things with me and he told me he doesn't have the energy.
My mom wants me to come and stay a week at Thanksgiving, I told her that it depends on Jeffs days off, but I really would like to go.. I would just feel guilty if he happens to be off around Thanksgiving.. If thats the case we can go together those two days..
Jeff wants me to get a job because he wants a Harley.. Yes I sure feel the love with those words..
Got Jordan started on school on Monday, he is doing two days work Mon-Fri.. That was Jeff's idea to try and get him done with the year faster.. I think its great as long as Jordan doesn't have a hard time. So far the first week is easy..
The stress of my marriage is causing me to have bad dreams.. I hate bad dreams..
Okay thats it.. Hope eveyone is doing well.
I'd say about 6 or so years ago I was at the same place you are now(sex wise) I can't remember what happened to turn it around. I remember when Matt and I started drinking at night during the week we started having sex a lot more and I felt way more comfortable. But I remember really never wanting to have sex and when we did I just wanted him to hurry up and get it over with. I think Jeff is like you said, he just thinks you want to hurry up or want him to. I don't know. I thought I had a point to this. Guess not. Sorry. Hope it gets better, talking to someone might help. Porn might help, just saying, some isn't as fake looking. Trying new things in bed to like shake things up might help it from being the same thing. Also I know from myself and my feelings and brain that if I'm not comfortable, either with how I look or what we are doing ill never get relaxed enough to finish. If I felt self conscience or whatever I could never get into it. It takes me a long time too unless I'm really into it or drunk ish. Which of course we don't do anymore. So there you go. There's some personal stuff to counter all yours. Lol
ReplyDeleteFine! I'll say some personal stuff too. A while back husband quit all foreplay. If he was ready then I should be good to go basically. My problem is different because I get off really easy. Sorry! The problem was he figured I got off then that is all that mattered and he was done right after. So basically he was just getting off and it was over. So one day when he wanted to have sex I said only if you actually kiss me an it lasts longer than 5 minutes. So he did then was ok for a while and gradually went back to being lazy again until I brought it up again. Not sure how to fix your problem but we have all had problems and if you want to stay married then you will find a way to make it work. Maybe if he gets you off first then you blow him and everyone goes to sleep
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